This morning I read an article in the NY Times and the following quote really stuck out for me.
“It was a whole personality shift for me,” Dr. Martin said. “I wasn’t any longer attached to my performance and trying to control things. I could see that the really good things in life will happen if you just show up and share your natural enthusiasms with people. You have a feeling of attunement with other people.”
Lack of attachment to outcome, giving up control, showing up, and natural enthusiasm…these are all things that I as a coach and a person try to do in my life, and it is what I want to help my clients achieve. There is so much power in just showing up and sharing who you are, and outcomes and control are illusory.
The funny thing is that this article (click here to read the whole thing) is about doctors using hallucinogens to help people suffering from depression. It really strikes me how powerful the shift was for the Dr. Martin quoted above, and how fundamental the elements of the shift are. Even more amazing is how hard it is for human beings (myself included) to not be attached to outcome, to give up control, to show up, and to share our natural enthusiasms!
What would it feel like to be truly fine with any outcome?
What would it feel like to give up control and simply be present?
What are you holding on to?